Pride is a strong emotion we have. Pride can be a good thing and can also be a bad thing. A person without pride lacks confidence and feels the world is crumbling, while a person with too much pride is not humble, but self-centred or selfish.
We just have to do the balancing act once again and be nice somewhere in the middle of these two extremes. It could be tough sometimes, because different people think differently.
One may think one's action is humble but to others the person could be proud.
A proud person dislikes saying "sorry" when he or she is wrong.
All of us have a set of internal rules of what is right or wrong, again, this is an ambiguous set of rules, as Marie Callas has said before.
Again, ambiguity sets in, because Marie Callas says "sorry" itself is a negative word, and is self blaming in true sense or "distressed, full of sorrow."
Repeat too much of that could lead you to be too self inflicting and affects your self esteem. For example, someone is blocking your way and you wish to tell that person to stand aside and let you go through. Many people like to say "Sorry, could you please let me go through?" Why should you say sorry in this case when you are not wrong but are just trying to get to the other side?
So, from now on, stop say sorry in this kind of situation where you have the right to do something perfectly. An intelligent person should know when to say sorry and when not to say it.
Thank you, Marie Callas for your wisdom!
Marie Callas teaches "forgiveness". Forgive someone who wrongs you. Do not dwell on it forever. Some people may interpret as forgive them but do not forget what they did to you. I thought it would be a good thing to forgive yet remember. However, it is not the same.
To forgive means, totally remove that bad memories you may have from your brain. Meaning, the slate has been cleaned, and the person does not own you anymore nor feel guilty to you. Forgiveness is one of the noblest spiritual way one can attain, because it just DAMN DFFICULT to do that!
Imagine the person’s face when he/she is told that you have forgotten what happened in the past, all his/her effort was wasted for nothing!
These days, I practice forgiving and forgetting the past. I learn to forget the events and eventually the people as well. So, now I live as happily as I want.
Don’t be angry if I don’t recognize you one day!
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